Divorced Coparenting

If you are reading this webpage, then you have already started or finished what may be one of the most difficult processes in your child's life. Those of you who have already been through the legal process may have discovered that the situation did not improve- in fact you may have found that everything became more complicated. Frequently divorce is looked at as a way out of a relationship in order to make life easier by 'finding the right person' or 'finding oneself' (especially relevant if the marriage occurred at an early age). In the real world however, the complications of a split-home and dealing with step-parents can be a night mirror and often divorced parents eventually realize with shock that the right person was never there. This is due to the common misconception many of us have about love and relationships: that the right person will be different. Educate yourself on the honest 'ins & outs' of relationships, like how a relationship's chemistry cycles and the common pitfalls for all couples. The point is that you do not want to limit yourself in future relationships or put your kids in the middle of another divorce due to common misconceptions and inaccurate assumptions. For specific questions email our founder: clay@fight4kids.com or join the Discussion Forums.

No longer are mom and dad both there when the lights are turned out at night. Often mom and dad are no longer arguing about how to improve the home, they are engrossed in finances and establishing themselves. It's a whole different world for kids and the experience will change their childhood  forever. If you are still in the legal process, now is a good time for you to consider the fact that a child needs equal time with both parents. Just because the court system has traditionally handed out horrible visitation schedules does not mean that America's kids are healthier. The fact is that as a dad, you have a responsibility EQUAL to a mom's and a  50/50 visitation schedule is not out of the question. If you are a mom, you may need to push for the same schedule. Kids are not looking to see if their mom or dad can pass a character contest, they want love and attention from both parents. Sometimes the best thing is for a mom or dad to find themselves directly responsible for kids a lot more than normal...the mutually healthy connections that form can be life changing.*

If children cannot have both mom and dad at night, they can have mom and dad every other night. From experience, the founder of Fight 4 Kids is able to co-parent much more effectively with a 50/50 split-week schedule. Take the time to review the resources we have listed below for divorced or divorcing parents. There are handouts and books that have been proven to make matters a little bit more manageable and most importantly, not as damaging to your child.

A Final Note: Related studies have illustrated that kids will use a dad as a safe person to rebel against. Dad's role is simply not identical to mom's role and trying to be everything to your kids or trying to replace the other co parent is not fair to any stakeholder involved.

Sometimes we respond to emails regarding divorce or custody issues. We have included a Question & Answer page related to these topics. 

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Some Additional Resources Include:

Honest Guide to Child Custody and Visitation (Paperback)

Honest Guide to Child Custody and Visitation (Digital)

(Written by a Single Dad and Founder of Fight4Kids)

Divorced Parenting (Handout)**

The Good Divorce (Paperback)

Divorced Families: Meeting the Challenge of Divorce and Remarriage (Paperback)

*Review our Terms of Service. This website provides practical and supportive information however we recommend professionally trained assistance if needed.