As an individual and as a member of your
community, you have the power to prevent child abuse and neglect.
Here are some ways to contribute your ounce—or more—of effort to
prevention.
Understand the problem. Child abuse and neglect affect
children of all ages, races, and incomes. According to the
National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System, in 2001, an
estimated 903,000 children nationwide were victims of
maltreatment. Most experts believe that actual incidents of abuse
and neglect are more numerous than statistics indicate.
Understand the terms. Child abuse and neglect take more
than one form. Federal and State laws address four main types of
child maltreatment: physical abuse, physical or emotional neglect,
sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. Often more than one type of
abuse or neglect occurs within families. Some types of
maltreatment, such as emotional abuse, are much harder to
substantiate than others, such as physical abuse.
Understand the causes. Most parents don't hurt or
neglect their children intentionally. Many were themselves abused
or neglected. Very young or inexperienced parents might not know
how to take care of their babies or what they can reasonably
expect from children at different stages of development.
Circumstances that place families under extraordinary stress—for
instance, poverty, divorce, sickness, disability—sometimes take
their toll in child maltreatment. Parents who abuse alcohol or
other drugs are more likely to abuse or neglect their children.
Support programs that support families. Parent
education, community centers, respite care services, and substance
abuse treatment programs help to protect children by addressing
circumstances that place families at risk for child abuse and
neglect. Donate your time or money, if you can.
Report suspected abuse and neglect. Some States require
everyone to report suspected abuse or neglect; others specify
members of certain professions, such as educators and doctors. But
whether or not you are mandated by law to report child abuse and
neglect, doing so may save a child—and a family. If you suspect a
child is being abused or neglected, call the police or your local
child welfare agency.
Spread the word. Help educate others in your community
about child abuse and neglect. See the list below for sources of
free materials. Ask if you can leave a stack of brochures at your
local public library, recreation or community center, government
center, or other public place. You also might make material
available at your church, synagogue, mosque, temple, or other
faith institutions. Even grocery stores usually have places to
distribute community materials.
Strengthen the fabric of your community. Know your
neighbors' names and the names of their children, and make sure
they know yours. Give stressed parents a break by offering to
watch their children. Volunteer. If you like interacting with
children, great, but you do not have to volunteer directly with
kids to contribute to prevention. All activities that strengthen
communities, such as service to civic clubs and participation on
boards and committees, ultimately contribute to the well-being of
children.
Be ready in an emergency. We've all witnessed the
screaming-child-in-the-supermarket scenario. If we are parents, at
least once that screaming child has been ours. Most parents take
the typical tantrum in stride. But what if you witness a scene—in
the supermarket or anywhere else—where you believe a child is
being, or is about to be, physically or verbally abused?
Responding in these circumstances technically moves beyond
prevention to intervention, and intervention is best handled by
professionals. Still, if you find yourself in a situation where
you believe a child is being or will be abused at that moment,
there are steps you can take. Prevent Child Abuse America suggests
the following:
Talk to the adult to get their attention away from the
child. Be friendly.
Say something like, "Children can really wear you out, can't
they?" or "My child has done the same thing."
Ask if you can help in any way—could you carry some
packages? Play with an older child so the baby can be fed or
changed? Call someone on your cell phone?
If you see a child alone in a public place—for example,
unattended in a grocery cart—stay with the child until the
parent returns.
Finally—and most important if you are a parent—remember that
prevention, like most positive things, begins at home. Take time to
re-evaluate your parenting skills. Be honest with yourself—are you
yelling at your children a lot or hitting them? Do you enjoy being a
parent at least most of the time? If you could benefit from some
help with parenting, seek it—getting help when you need it is an
essential part of being a good parent. Talk to a professional that
you trust; take a parenting class; read a book about child
development. Contact the resources below to locate places that
parents can get help.
Online
Parenting Class,
Internet Parenting Class, and Free services for social
workers, families, parents, single dads, single moms, pastors,
and therapists. Online Support
Groups.
Free Parenting
Classes and Internet Parenting Class. FreeOnline ParentingClass.